WALKING IN YOUR WORTH: LESSONS FROM BEAUTY IN THE BLACK
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In Tyler Perry’s Beauty in the Black series that was released on October 24th of this year on Netflix. Kimmie faces abuse at the hands of her mother’s boyfriend and victim-blaming from the very person who should protect her. Despite the deep wounds from her mother choosing a man over her, Kimmie’s life is a testament to the endurance of women. She struggles to make ends meet as a stripper caught in the toxic dynamics of pimps and vices, Kimmie exemplifies the cycle of being trapped in a life that chips away at one’s self-worth. Yet, despite everything, her story is about survival and seeking hope in the darkest circumstances. She desires to attend beauty school and stop stripping. As a worthiness coach, I see reflections of many women’s journeys in this series. So often, women are made to feel powerless, manipulated into believing their worth is tied to material possessions, beauty standards, or even relationships with toxic men. Beauty In the Black sheds light on how easily we can fall into the trap of comparison, envy, and greed when we lose sight of our inherent worth. But the truth is, you are worthy not because of what you own, what others say, or even what you’ve been through. Your worth is inherent—it is not up for debate. Women like Kimmie, who have experienced homelessness, abuse, and betrayal, still possess the power to rewrite their stories. And so do you.
“You can’t control your past, but you can make it rain in your future”
The Facade of Perfection
In Beauty in the Black, we see the tension between the “diva” persona and the internal struggles Mallory faces. On the surface, she’s navigating couture fashion and fighting to keep up appearances, but behind that mask lies a wounded soul. This facade is something many women can relate to—feeling the pressure to appear strong, flawless, and invincible while internally, they’re fighting their battles. I often remind my clients that all that glitters is not gold. The external image of success, beauty, or wealth is often a mask for deeper pain, insecurities, and unhealed wounds. As women, we must stop measuring ourselves by others’ definitions of success and instead embrace the beauty of who we are, flaws and all.
A New Beginning
Choosing Equity Over Just A Paycheck One of the most inspiring aspects of Mallory’s journey is for her to go from being a foster child to children’s model. This certainly impacted her decision to stop settling for less. Instead of accepting a paycheck, she demanded equity—a powerful metaphor for women owning their value and refusing to settle for mere scraps. When we, as women, choose to get paid in equity—whether literally or figuratively—we’re choosing to invest in ourselves, in our long-term success, and in the future generations of women to come. We see this echoed in the story of the cancer lawsuit in the beauty industry, where women fight for justice after being harmed by relaxers. It’s another reminder that we have to take control of our narratives and demand what is rightfully ours, even when it’s hard.
“Demand equity, not just a paycheck—because you are worth the investment.”
The Lack of Relational Intelligence
Throughout Beauty in the Black, we see the cycle of negative friendships, toxic love, manipulation, and gaslighting are constant themes, especially in the relationships Kimmie finds herself entangled in. These toxic dynamics leave many women feeling trapped, as if their power has been stripped away by people who prey on their vulnerabilities. However, one of the most empowering lessons from the series is that the only way to break free from the vicious cycle is to reclaim our power by walking in our worth and refusing to accept less than we deserve. It’s a reminder to surround yourself with people who see your value and push you toward greatness, not those who keep you stuck in fear, self-doubt, or self-sabotaging submission.
A Call To Walk In Your Worth
“Continue fighting for your worth so that you can unleash your greatness.”
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I urge you to walk in your worth, and as a worthiness coach, my mission is to help women recognize that their past doesn’t define them. Whether you’ve been manipulated, abandoned, or made to feel like you’re not enough, know that you are worthy of love, success, and happiness. Tyler Perry’s Beauty in the Black is a reminder that, despite life’s darkest moments, there is always hope. There is always a chance to rewrite your story and walk in your worth. If you need help walking in your worth checkout my book Worthy Woman, Wildly Winning here, or if you’re interested in my group coaching program, The Year of the Worthy Woman, which will begin January 2025 please shoot me an email here , and put Interest in The Year of the Worthy Woman in the subject line and I will send you an application to determine if it will be mutually beneficial. Stay tuned because on Thursday, October 31, 2024, I’ll be releasing the next blog of this blog series.
“Your worth isn’t defined by what happened to you but by the light that shines within you.”